Dozens of SFW videos on YouTube share ways to get into BDSM play, whether it’s rope tying for bondage or techniques for delivering the perfect spanking. Kink and BDSM are just other forms of sexual expression and ways to connect with the sexuality of others. Tea parties, play parties, munches and dress-up groups are scheduled across the nation for members of this community to have unforgettable experiences together.

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A professional dominatrix is skilled at applying the right kind of pain that can make her masochistic, submissive client cry out in pleasure. There’s a common misconception that BDSM is always about pain, but it’s really about the sensations. You might be surprised to learn that a profession technically classified as “sex work” does not involve any actual sex. Sure, you can go online and find someone who will gladly take your money, slap you around a bit and then have sex with you—but that’s not a service provided by a dominatrix. A truly professional and experienced dominatrix is more like a guide through the less accessible sexual pleasure that some men—and women—find in the acts of submission or masochism, both in and out of a dungeon. This is why most sessions with a pro-domme (professional dominatrix) are carefully thought out and planned beforehand by the mistress to make sure they are uniquely tailored to, and enjoyed by, each particular sub. At its core, BDSM is a sexual practice about intentional, exaggerated power play. Terms like Master, slave, Dominant, Goddess, pet, bitch, and slut are all regular parts of the lexicon. Consider how consent makes all the difference between being called a “stupid slut” while walking down the street, and being called the same name in the course of a scene (a pre-negotiated, planned BDSM interaction). Degradation is a common BDSM dynamic, and is rooted in the submissive’s connection between their own arousal or pleasure and that practice. If a woman in a scene is being called a “good little whore,” it’s likely because that’s what she has asked to be called. It is equally likely that she has set clear boundaries around what she does not want to be called, what sorts of degradation are off limits for her, and how both she and her Dominant know when the scene is over. I think what draws people are the taboo of the different things that we do,” she says. “We wear latex, spandex, leather, and all of these clothing options make this lifestyle fun.” She began to explain how even vanilla people practice forms of BDSM unknowingly. “If a person is in their bedroom doing a little spanking in their play, they may not know that that’s BDSM, but it is,” she said. Deposit will be always necessary to book your place by bank transfer. keep looking for the dates & Prices here. While the type of play I typically engage in doesn't involve physical danger, if I were to accidentally transgress, I do absolutely honor limits. I take some time at the start to go over a client’s limits, then monitor them closely throughout the scene.

Over the years, my slaves would complain that they couldn’t figure out how to introduce their girlfriends or wives to female dominance. I co-wrote a book titled How to be a Dominant Diva which focuses on giving couples the inspiration and tools to explore eroticism, role-play and power exchange in a way that is exciting but never intimidating! Among others: Arrive clean. CLEAN. Immaculately clean. Clean like you are going to the doctor’s office and the doctor is going to make you bend in every revealing possible angle. Scrolling through fetish and kink searches online, anyone would be met with the profiles of both femme doms and the professional dominatrix. Both have similar roles but different lifestyles. According to the Los Angeles transplant from Illinois, there is a difference between the two. We are also looking for ladies for our brand new webcam studio and phone chat lines. More Info Here

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There is a divide in medical and therapeutic communities about whether BDSM is actually a healing modality or a vehicle for retraumatization. But as kink grows in popularity, and as kinksters from marginalized identities enter into psychology and other emotional and behavioral health fields, there are increasing numbers of safe spaces for kinky people to process some of their traumas outside the sex dungeon. The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom boasts a robust list of kink-positive, non-pathologizing mental health professionals for kinksters looking to heal and contextualize their desires. I think most people aren’t as out there and in your face with it,” agrees Mistress C. “In L.A. where I live, I am out. Not a lot of people are out, and they can’t be for a number of reasons. Their jobs, their families, whatever the case may be, they may have to continue to practice underground. A lot of people still have to remain underground.” There is no typical client. I see couples, women, CEOs, Uber drivers, married guys, virgins. There’s the client who saves up for six months to have a session that means the world to him and the client who just needs a thrill on his lunch break. It runs the gamut.

I started pro-domming while I was still a grad student here in LA. Much of my work in the field of art had to do with power dynamics, objectification, voyeurism and exhibitionism, so although I was always been interested in BDSM as a type of eroticized power exchange, I had a hard time giving myself permission to explore it in my personal life. I’ve always identified as a dominant woman, long before I was sexually aware, it was just who I was. I believe this was partially due to being raised in a very matriarchal family. When I played house with my classmates I would always make the boy play as the dog instead of the father.

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That is really a natural high that people experience when they push their threshold of pain. Abuse is when the other person is not consenting to the situation. Practicing BDSM is when people are giving consent to being spanked, humiliated, objectified. They are consenting to have these things to happen to them.” Sadomasochism is a term derived from the writings of French aristocrat Marquis de Sade and Austrian writer Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, which details sexual activities that involve deriving pleasure from causing pain or being on the receiving end of such painful inflictions, respectively. Kinkier activities might include erotic asphyxiation, being tied up and blindfolded, spanked with a paddle or tantalized with the sting of a whip. Some participants are aroused by being told what to do, or they derive an inexplicable thrill from being in complete control. For some, it’s simply to spice up the bedroom occasionally; for others the goal is to live a life that satisfies their kinky compulsions. This lifestyle relies on adults giving their consent, decreasing harm, and making conscientious choices for personal fulfillment and pleasure. BDSM is not about kids, breaking the law or violating anyone’s consent. It requires a knowledge and understanding of self, and an embracing of your innermost compulsions, many of which might not be deemed “normal” or acceptable in mainstream society. It requires that you know who you are and what you want, that you be willing to go beyond the limits and constraints of society. The journey into the BDSM lifestyle began for 52-year-old Carmen Day early on in her life, and she contributes her love for the lifestyle to her grandmother. “The reason why I decided to become a femme dom and a dominatrix was due to things in my past as a young person in my grandmother’s house, who was a femme dom herself as quite as it’s kept,” says Carmen.I enjoy using my body to dominate and at 6’5” I’m quite imposing. That being said I do love my props such as floggers, collars and cuffs. The BDSM lifestyle attracts many people of all walks of life. Mothers, nephews, grandmothers, politicians, doctors and even judges can be seen playing in a dungeon or attending a kink event, but most of these people aren’t living out and in the open. Playing in this space as a woman is all about role reversal and giving men the training Mistress C feels they deserve. “I believe women are just being hit over the head with ‘they need to be submissive,’ and I don’t believe that,” she said. “I believe women are very powerful, and when they tap into that power, they are able to help direct men in a space where they are a little more loving, caring, empathetic. I think that’s what a lot of our men need, that type of training that they really don’t get at home, that makes them better men overall.” One of my most loyal and thoughtful submissives just bought me a new car. He offered me any car I wanted and I chose one that fits my personal life instead of one that you would imagine a famous dominatrix driving. It’s a minivan. It breaks all stereotypes and is perfect.