Calm Parents, Happy Kids: The Secrets of Stress-free Parenting

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Dr. Laura's work has profoundly changed my parenting...I recommend it to anyone who was raised in a home where they were yelled at and/or have become yellers themselves. There is a better, more effective way to relate to and guide our children. The title really says it all. Dr. Laura Markham's work is practical, easy-to-apply and transformative. Get a cup of coffee, find a comfy chair, and be prepared to get great advice from a wise, new friend and fellow parent. Force creates resistance. That’s a strong message for all parents. So how shall we react to our child’s inappropriate behaviour? Discipline! (btw, the literal meaning of this word is “to guide”). In a nutshell, it’s all about teaching your child alternative behaviour, rather than just stopping the unwanted behaviour.

All parenting starts with re-parenting our inner child. Sometimes, we feel that we don’t want to raise our kids the same way as our parents raised us, but some particular behaviours just start popping up (like nagging, yelling, punishing, etc.), and it seems we have no control over it. That’s because some reactions and behavioural patterns were installed in our brains in our childhood, and if we want to break this cycle, we need to start with healing our own wounds. Mindfully. Here are a few practical ideas on how to do it: that they are about to become a big brother or sister — and then offers concrete suggestions to help you lay down the foundation for a healthy By contrast, when we think of ourselves as coaches, we know that all we have is influence – so we work hard to stay respected and connected, so our child wants to follow us. Like an athletics coach who helps kids develop strength and skills to play their best game, coaching parents help kids develop the mental and emotional muscle and the life skills to manage themselves and live their best lives.”I saw immediate results with my 4 year old when I changed MY parenting to Dr. Markham's suggestions. I was glad to finally come across a book that focused on parents changing to work in unison with their children rather than forcing my child to adapt to my then, not so correct parenting. I am a SAHM to two boys, ages 4 1/2 and 18 months. I first found Dr. Markham when my youngest was about 10 months old and some major sibling issues reared Refreshingly positive and respectful in its tone, Peaceful Parents, Happy Siblings lovingly guides parents by using scripts and practical examples, essential tools for any parent with more than one child. Dr. Laura's compassionate approach is empowering for parents, and liberating for children. The beginning of this book had me really thinking of the Seinfeld episode where George's dad listened to some relaxation tapes that told him to say, "serenity now," every time he felt his blood pressure get too high. By the end of the episode all the yelling, "serenity now," turns to pent up emotions and the saying becomes, "serenity now, insanity later." I kind of worried and laughed a bit as I listened to this book that all the calming breaths and peaceful demeanor in dealing with young children would turn into insanity later!

The other thing that rubs me wrong about this book is the constant appeal to "science." According to Markham, after 10,000 years, we have finally figured out how to raise well-adjusted human beings, and this book is the summary of those findings. Her suggestions are very precise, and her insinuations that your child will be messed up forever if you don't follow her method are not subtle. Adding a child to the family creates a cascade of challenges. Dr. Laura Markham shows parents how to avoid common sibling difficulties, and how to convey their love, even in stressful situations, so children truly feel supported. Open this book, and you'll find clarity, wisdom, workable ideas, and generous helpings of respect for parents and children. start with ourselves if we want to make meaningful changes in our children's relationships with each other. The compassion is in Dr. Laura's empathy

another book. But the beauty of this book is that the layout of it makes it possible to start immediately. I highly recommend it. Let your child decide what you’ll be doing during this special time (but leave an opportunity for your suggestions as well),

I've searched high and low for parenting guidance that is sensible, simple, effective and adaptable. That does not heap guilt upon me. That strikes a chord so it's easy to remember when I need it most. I have found it in Dr. Laura Markham. My relationship with my 4 year old has improved 1000 fold since trying your methods. The way you teach this simple message of love has made it revolutionary for me. Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids might seem like a lengthy book at first glance but it is divided into three sections which makes it much easier to digest. Each section is broken down further into pointed topics which are designed to help you master peaceful parenting. The division of topics is perfect, giving the reader the opportunity to let the research, the advice, and the real-life application techniques a chance to soak in. you did. If you know anyone who is expecting a second child, give them the best gift they will get-- a copy of this book. They will be forever grateful.

I'm a brand new mama and highly interested in becoming a gentle parent. The words of this book resonate with my heart. She helps make my ideal parenting style attainable with clear, organized examples and detailed suggestions. Even though my little lady is still quite tiny, I can use this book now and also 3, 5 and even 10 years from now. I know our copy will be well loved as we learn how to best love our child and future children. I am kind-hearted and not a yeller by nature and with my strong willed/high emotional needs child, I was feeling overwhelmed and at the end of my rope. Yelling and spanking were being suggested to me to deal with my son and it didn't feel right and it wasn't working! Now I know that I can be my loving self and I have the tools to work with my son in a way that doesn't ask me to change myself in negative ways (harden my heart and just become more strict, etc.) Thank you. I wish I had found this book when my son was an infant. At least we get to start going in a positive direction at 3 1/2 years. My husband has also completely jumped on board and I am so in love with all the positive changes he has made. Empathic limits has strengthened our entire family relationship. If you're a mom like me, then you need to do yourself and your children a favor and read this book. Life changing! Second, this book is designed to be used for a long time! Parents of toddlers will benefit just as much as parents of elementary school age children. In fact, the earlier you read this, the more of an opportunity you have to use it as your child grows! Dr. Laura has several sections that she breaks down further based on the age of your child. I love this because as every parent knows, there is NO one size fits all approach to parenting children as they move through various developmental stages. Each age and stage comes with its own unique set of challenges and opportunities. Dr. Laura has given parents the gift of learning how their parenting can evolve alongside their children's growth and development.

Notes: I like the part about listening to your anger, rather than acting on it. "acting while we're angry...is hardly ever constructive...The constructive way to handle anger is to limit our expression of it" -p. 14

L. Markham vine în ajutor părinților cu o mulțime de sfaturi și informații utile cum să educi fără pedepse, fără țipete, cu empatie și dragoste. Foster connection . “Children need to feel deeply connected to their parents or they don’t feel entirely safe, and their brains don’t work well to regulate their emotions and follow parental guidance.” Children who feel connected to their parents are not only happier but also easier, as connection leads to cooperation. This book has helped me to connect with my children. It has wonderful information in it on how to be more loving with our children and how to support their emotional needs. I have almost stopped yelling in the house and I feel so much more connected to my boys. I can tell that they feel the same way and are listening to me more. It's amazing.