This book uses Family of Origin therapy techniques as a basis for you to improve those relationships and your own sense of self-esteem.

He wanted me to become a doctor and I wanted to be just that, unconsciously hoping he would love and accept me. Yet, they have this ambivalence in them: they want to give loyalty yet they don’t want to give loyalty. When my uncles told me he walked around the village with my photos in his breast pocket talking about his daughter smart daughter. I would receive the approval and maybe love of this man I so loved and knew so little of — he was not in my life.If you don't know anything about family systems I promise you will obtain incredibly powerful insights from this book. No parent is perfect and I believe in cases where children receive good parenting, they still have to individuate and find their own path in life. Accepting that the adults in my life did not take care of me and that the family I so want to belong to did not really exist gave me the space to drop this weight of toxic loyalties and obligations I was handed, to face the shame, disappointment, anger, loss, grief and acceptance of what was. Simple: Because if you don't figure out how things went on in your family of origin, you end up recreating the drama (hopefully not trauma) in current relationships.

family members, how to interview relatives to develop a clearer picture of how each member fits into the family tree, and how to find different and better ways of dealing with family relationships.I learned about myself, from page 80 on the youngest sister of brothers, "men are easily tempted by her good looks and compatibility.