Not Nice" is a powerful and thought-provoking book that challenges readers to break out of their comfort zones and start standing up for themselves. The most important takeaway from the book for me was to ensure that i take care of my needs and interests without fail rather than ignoring or sacrificing them for othres. Marcia Sirota gives you the straight talk with real-life stories, deep psychological insights and practical, easy-to-apply tools to rebuild your self-esteem and stop trying so hard to make other people happy.

It’s definitely helped me crack the layers of guilt, approval seeking, and fear developed from growing up afab in the US. To calculate the overall star rating and percentage breakdown by star, we don’t use a simple average. This book as made me incredibly assertive, REALLY spiked my confidence, lowered my anxiety, and even lessened my stuttering. I might not have agreed with Aziz Gazipura on everything, but I learned a lot, and for that, I'm grateful. If you’re reading this book and did not purchase it, or it was not purchased for your use only, then please purchase your own copy.When someone donates a fifty dollar bill with a personal message on it, she’s launched on a journey to find out where it came from and in the process finds herself. kept thinking that it was really annoying how the author was trying to tell me what to think about the book i. It’s you being powerful and going after what you want because you are no longer held back by the fear of what others will think of you. I’m so good, I can take any dysfunctional man and turn him into Prince Charming, just in time for him to dump me and then go on to marry the next woman he dates. Hone those conversational skills, and be prepared for one-word answers like, yeah, uh-huh, and okay.

Do yourself and pick this book up along with the companion book and settle in for some fantastic fall themed reading. Instead of scrolling through your social media news feed, this is a much better way to spend your spare time in my opinion.Jenna is quirky, outgoing, and fun and has fully embraced the strange traditions at her family's pumpkin patch. However, until this book, I simply had no clue about the psychological and emotional damage that a lifetime of cultural, social, and religious indoctrination will do. I’m about ready to give up on loving real men and focus on lusting over fictional men in the Turkish dramas I can’t stop devouring. That’s how I feel about a lot of self-help and business books at this point – unless they are super niched and tactical, they are all too similar to keep my interest. I've suffered from shyness and lack of confidence my whole life and this is the first book where I felt the author, who is also the narrator, is truly at my level.

In the first chapter, he tells you that his goal is for you to eventually see the term "Nice guy" and think of that as a terrible disgusting thing that you would never ever want to be. Gazipura stresses that overcoming the Nice Guy Syndrome doesn't mean becoming unkind or indifferent. Since I've already read some books about people pleasing, I didn't mind that it didn't talk much about how it is a coping mechanism from childhood stress and truama. In conclusion, Not Nice acts as a categorical guide for moving away from the 'Nice Guy Syndrome' towards a more assertive and authentic self.The middle of Not Nice is dedicated to helping us understand the importance of setting healthy boundaries. I liked seeing characters from the companion book to this one (Jennifer Peel’s A Pumpkin and a Patch) and it was so good to finally read Jenna’s story! This amount includes seller specified domestic postage charges as well as applicable international postage, dispatch, and other fees. He is diving deep, though subconscious limiting believes and brings to light the very deep motives that makes one believe something is deeply wrong with him and provide actionable steps out of it.