I’ve had questions (sometimes snarky) thrown at me, wanting to know why my husband is dressed like a woman. But I had wanted to know what was on her mind since she was really quiet, and I try my best at keeping communication flowing, since it's healthy for a relationship. His journey could indeed go down different paths, however not every journey is leading to estrogen or transitioning.

I often say, don’t live for the oddball wanker out there who is just nasty and hateful to his core regardless. Still, even knowing that he can’t change this part of him it doesn’t mean you HAVE to accept it or allow it. But I think mostly that’s probably a trivial issue, and probably a bigger deal in my head than it actually is. I couldn’t stop thinking about dressing up in cute dresses and every time I saw any girl in a lovely dress, I couldn’t stop fantasizing about how I would look in them.The fantasy of submissiveness and dominance makes people whose sexual behavior runs toward the vanilla uncomfortable.

I told her I really loved her and crossdressing was just something I did for excitement and I was not gay. When I met my wife I was attracted to her cuteness, her sense of humor, her personality, and yes, how she dressed.Feeling hard to come to terms with this, and feel betrayed to be intimate with him now as feel it is not me he is with but his feminine person. I often think, if I want to truly know what it is like to be a woman, why not get to really know my wife and learn about her experience. It is too late in my life — I do think transitioning would have been a choice I made when young had it been an option available to me at the time. Some crossdressers tell me they are straight when they are presenting as a man, but identify as bisexual when they are dressed up.

People need to understand that while there may be overlap or intersection at times, gender expression is not defined by our sexual orientation and vice versa. I don’t hide my browser history, my wife could log into my laptop or phone anytime she wanted and look at what I am doing.She then decided to put her wedding ring on me and then she told me not to do anything until she was ready. She continued, “I’ve been reading up on your urges and your feelings for quite a while now, and I can honestly say that I think I should understand your needs. Infidelity, which encompasses lying and betrayal, withholding affection or sex without a clear statement of why… which constitutes abuse. I really want to tell her but I know if I do I cannot say that I have been dressing since the day that she told me to stop.